From Career Contessa authored by Career Contessa:
“It is incredibly important to be a good communicator at work. Whether you are working through a project with a large team or navigating a complicated issue at work, communication is key.
Here’s our question. How do you communicate at work? As women, we can tend (it’s not an exact science, so don’t @ me!) to use language that gives a little “wiggle room”—to make our coworkers feel more comfortable or at ease. We can tend to be apologetic, selflessly accommodating, and sometimes self-effacing.
Of course, there is a line to tow—especially as a woman. If you’ve listened to “Flawless” lately or if you’re reading We Should All Be Feminists, you might recall this Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie quote,
“We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful otherwise you will threaten the man.”
Not sure about you, but this resonated with us here at Career Contessa. When a whole society has taught you to constantly undermine your own power, how do you unlearn all of it?
What we can do is take small steps. We can recognize when we use language that undermines our intelligence, our strength, and our wisdom—and replace it with language that is powerful and unwavering. “
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