Four Women Accuse New York’s Attorney General of Physical Abuse

From The New Yorker authored by Jane Myer and Ronan Farrow:

Update: Three hours after the publication of this story, Schneiderman resigned from his position. “While these allegations are unrelated to my professional conduct or the operations of the office, they will effectively prevent me from leading the office’s work at this critical time,” he said in a statement. “I therefore resign my office, effective at the close of business on May 8, 2018.”

“Eric Schneiderman, New York’s attorney general, has long been a liberal Democratic champion of women’s rights, and recently he has become an outspoken figure in the #MeToo movement against sexual harassment. As New York State’s highest-ranking law-enforcement officer, Schneiderman, who is sixty-three, has used his authority to take legal action against the disgraced film mogul Harvey Weinstein, and to demand greater compensation for the victims of Weinstein’s alleged sexual crimes. Last month, when the Times and this magazine were awarded a joint Pulitzer Prize for coverage of sexual harassment, Schneiderman issued a congratulatory tweet, praising “the brave women and men who spoke up about the sexual harassment they had endured at the hands of powerful men.” Without these women, he noted, “there would not be the critical national reckoning under way.”

Now Schneiderman is facing a reckoning of his own. As his prominence as a voice against sexual misconduct has risen, so, too, has the distress of four women with whom he has had romantic relationships or encounters. They accuse Schneiderman of having subjected them to nonconsensual physical violence. All have been reluctant to speak out, fearing reprisal. But two of the women, Michelle Manning Barish and Tanya Selvaratnam, have talked to The New Yorker on the record, because they feel that doing so could protect other women. They allege that he repeatedly hit them, often after drinking, frequently in bed and never with their consent. Manning Barish and Selvaratnam categorize the abuse he inflicted on them as “assault.” They did not report their allegations to the police at the time, but both say that they eventually sought medical attention after having been slapped hard across the ear and face, and also choked. Selvaratnam says that Schneiderman warned her he could have her followed and her phones tapped, and both say that he threatened to kill them if they broke up with him. (Schneiderman’s spokesperson said that he “never made any of these threats.”)

A third former romantic partner of Schneiderman’s told Manning Barish and Selvaratnam that he also repeatedly subjected her to nonconsensual physical violence, but she told them that she is too frightened of him to come forward. (The New Yorker has independently vetted the accounts that they gave of her allegations.) A fourth woman, an attorney who has held prominent positions in the New York legal community, says that Schneiderman made an advance toward her; when she rebuffed him, he slapped her across the face with such force that it left a mark that lingered the next day. She recalls screaming in surprise and pain, and beginning to cry, and says that she felt frightened. She has asked to remain unidentified, but shared a photograph of the injury with The New Yorker.”

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Crashing the boys’ club: Women candidates find winning elections is only half the battle

From Yahoo authored by Lisa Belkin:

“For Tara Gaston, it was being repeatedly told “that’s not the way things have been done” on the Saratoga County, N.Y., board of supervisors, to which she had just been elected.

For Haya Ayala, it was watching her bill calling for pay parity get “killed before it could get anywhere near the floor” of the Virginia House of Delegates, which she joined as one of an influx of newcomers last year.

And for Deborah Gonzalez, it was taking her first meeting with the other candidate who had flipped a seat in the Georgia House of Representatives during a special election last fall and realizing that “he got a big office; I got a little office. He was given his first choice of committee requests; I didn’t get any of my committee requests. He was a white man; I was a Latina.”

There’s a blue wave predicted for November, composed of record numbers of newcomers, many of them women, who are running to change the status quo. But for the forerunners of that wave — new legislators like Gaston, Ayala and Gonzalez, who have already won their off-year or special elections — that expectation has now met reality. Like generations of officeholders before them, they are learning that getting elected is completely different from governing, and that this unprecedented and unpredictable political landscape makes it all the more complicated.

“The attention has been on the record numbers who are running and to the message being sent by those sheer numbers,” says Rosalyn Cooperman, associate professor of political science at the University of Mary Washington in Fredericksburg, Va. “But what kind of change this brings depends not only on who runs and who wins, but how they navigate the rigid political institutions” they are being elected to.”

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Five Myths That Inhibit Workplace Equality

I’ve got good news and “bad” news: we can bring substantive change to workplace sexism issues.

It’s good news since, of course, HELLO we all want to see things improve – we want to be viewed, treated, and respected as equals. So, YES! Let’s do this. It’s “bad” news since, OH MAN, change must also happen within each of us. So, sounds less awesome and almost like a guilt trip. But, I promise, it’s MOST DEFINITELY NOT. In fact, you will be encouraged, even where this is another call to action to add to your to-do list (well, that’s assuming it is not there already).

The author, and btw, Member of GIRL ATTORNEY – PA, of this GIRL ATTORNEY-curated piece does such a fantastic job of helping each of us see the subtle ways that women have, and some of us continue to contribute to the problem. I saw my past self in some of the examples she gave – “OH, I remember framing things like that, I’ve grown in that way.” It’s encouraging, actually. I also identified some of those deeply-rooted messages I was taught as a kiddo in a deeply-traditional home…that I am still working to “re-wire,” so to speak.

Oh, you’re gonna be glad you read this – and I think this is a great one on these issues to SHARE (b/c first of all, it’s a great article that men and woman alike can learn a lot from, and also – remember, this was authored by one of our own and we want to support her!)

Happy Tuesday Y’all.

XO,

Susan Carns Curtiss, Founder/CEO Girl Attorney, LLC


From Practical People Skills authored by Paula M. Jones:

“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.” – Alice Walker

“Once again the issue of equality and respect for women in the workplace is making its way into the headlines. I’m inspired by the new vitality in the hopeful younger generation regarding the issue because I have been quite tired from the lack of progress for women over my 30 year career.

Despite practicing law for the past 20 years, I have never viewed law as a means by which we can change human behavior or the way people think. Plato said, “Good people do not need laws to tell them to act responsibly, while bad people will find a way around the laws.” I believe the most lasting and meaningful change that will really eliminate lack of equality and respect for women in the workplace is ridding ourselves of the sexist beliefs that we still hold.

Notice that I am not pointing the finger to any one group of people to blame for sexist attitudes. Sexism is deeply ingrained in our culture, our families, our religions, our politics and our history. Not one of us is completely free of gender bias. However, we are not powerless to overcome it. Once we become conscious of our own assumptions, beliefs, thoughts or knee-jerk reactions, we are then able to change them. As my Wise Aunt Bea told me whenever I felt overwhelmed by any problem, “Awareness of a problem means we are already halfway to the solution.”

What myths can we eliminate to make our workplace more respectful of all, resulting in equal treatment of all workers, regardless of gender?”

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Big Law Is Still an Old Boys’ Club

Being the minority, in any instance, makes you vulnerable to abuses by the majority.

While women are no longer graduating law school in the minority – not for a while now, actually – we are still the minority in terms of overall numbers. Particularly so, too, in certain areas of law, such as litigation.

This article gives a great overview of some issues that many women are still – persistently – dealing with in the workplace. These experiences can dishearten, frustrate, distract from, and even prohibit a productive workday – LET ALONE a productive career.

I hope I can encourage all of you (regardless of your personal exposure/experience with these situations) that there is value in being mindful of these stories – for one, it will better prepare you to respond in a professional, confident manner, when/if the time comes. Also, it better prepares you to listen and encourage your colleague(s) who comes to you with their painful and confusing experience.

This article also does such a nice job telling us about some places of solidarity that can be found through social media/online. One such place is HERE in the GIRL ATTORNEY® Community of many Groups.

[NOTE: I also want to express a special thank you to the writer at Medium, Anna Dorn, who reached out to me a few weeks ago about including GIRL ATTORNEY® in this story and who now has a best friend (whether she likes it or not) in me, for being kind enough to help us get the word out to a wider audience. Also, I encourage you to check out her work as a whole – some really fabulous articles on these issues.

Please consider sharing the article and letting friends know that if they want to join the GIRL ATTORNEY® Community, to let you know (if you are FB Friends you can just add them) or to complete the simple form on the Girl Attorney website: www.girlattorney.com/facebook]

XO,

Susan Carns Curtiss, Founder/CEO Girl Attorney, LLC

From Medium authored by Anna Dorn:

“On HBO’s hit series Insecure, Molly is a Type A third-year associate in Biglaw, a colloquialism for the world’s top law firms. On season two, Molly mistakenly receives the paycheck of her white male coworker, a slacker, and realizes that he makes significantly more money than she does. In earlier episodes, Molly struggles to bond with the firm’s powerful, white male partners who seem to care only about golf. These scenes demonstrate Biglaw’s seemingly impenetrable glass ceiling, as well as how it remains an “old boys’ club.”

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Schools don’t know to handle girls’ menstrual periods, and their education is suffering because of it

IT’S FRIDAY!

…HEY, do you know when your period is? Well, as a matter of fact, YOU probably do – but do you remember when you didn’t? Do you remember finding out for THE FIRST TIME? Or finding out for the first time WHAT WAS TOO LONG to go without changing your pad/tampon? You were, almost-certainly in middle school at the time, and you have almost certainly learned that lesson a time or two after that when you [technically] knew better.

I hope you find this article as fascinating as I did. The story is about a particular school, but it makes me wonder how well educated our school districts, across the nation, are. I also wonder (not rhetorically, actually) how powerful it would be for any/all of the state Girl Attorney Groups to facilitate a handful of women from each state finding out what training (IF ANY) their respective state is providing to its schools regarding how to be SURE that a girl’s education is not disrupted simply due to the body she was issued at birth.

What with the fact that the public schools in the U.S. (which my kids have been in from “day one”) are in such terrible shape as they are, plus explicit bias, PLUS implicit bias…making sure that girls are getting equal access to education in our country (and particularly so, those that are not Caucasian) is NOT going to just happen on its own.

Eyes and ears open, ladies – maybe ask your daughters what’s up at their school. Worst case scenario – you learn something disturbing, and you and a few Girl Attorney friends show up to help move the ball forward to make a difference. Best case scenario – you learn something encouraging and you get to write a “Thank You” note to someone in leadership in your state to thank them for getting it right for your Girls.

Win-Win.

XO,

Susan Carns Curtiss, Founder/CEO Girl Attorney, LLC


From Vox authored by Anna North:

 

 

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Celebrated ‘Fearless Girl’ statue moving next to Stock Exchange, ending year-long standoff with ‘Charging Bull’

I mean, REALLY, who could have imagined one small-statured, ponytailed, dress-wearing, otherwise-unmoved girl statue would bring so much controversy?

Well, a lot of us, right?

I mean, we know – don’t we – how thoroughly offensive it is to some folks that a woman (let alone an actual GIRL) unapologetically stand her ground. She must compromise, she must bend, she must defer…this demonstration of absolute strength is so ill-fitting for some, they can’t help but find offense in it.

I’m excited to see Fearless Girl move to her new home, to newly-inspire other women and girls…and plus, soon the “Charging Bull” sculptor, Arturo Di Modica, can rest well at night, knowing that young, fierce, girl is no longer giving his Bull a run for its money. 😂😂😂

XO,

Susan Carns Curtiss, Founder/CEO Girl Attorney, LLC


From The New York Daily News authored by Jillian Jorgensen:

“Fearless Girl is on the move.

The much-beloved statue will depart her perch opposite the iconic Charging Bull to stare down some new scenery: The New York Stock Exchange, the Daily News has learned.

City Hall and the financial services firm that commissioned Fearless Girl, State Street Global Advisors, will announce the move Thursday.

“Our goal is to promote the power of having women in leadership, and placing her right next to the New York Stock Exchange is really the perfect metaphor,” Cyrus Taraporevala, president and CEO of State Street Global Advisors, told The News.”

 

 

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No 2018 Nobel Prize in Literature, Panel Says Amid Sexual Abuse Scandal

As yet another institution sees the impact of a sexual harassment scandal, I find myself both highly-irritated and hopeful.

I’m tired. Every time I hear of another instance – another institution – of abuse, it’s something new to mourn, something additional to process, more [mostly] women for which to feel protective. Choosing to pay attention to these issues in society, means an almost constant pull on one’s heart and mind. It’s heartbreakingly-exhausting….a state which, I have found over time “evolves” into….highly-irritating.

But also there is hope. For each Swedish Academy/Nobel Prize in Literature, Nike corporate, U.S. Gymnastics Association, ET CETERA, there is a person, or persons, or even (if we are lucky) WHOLE INSTITUTIONS that may well be held responsible for their sins of commission and/or omission….their derelictions of duty.

Knowing that truth can’t come until deception sees the light (even if over its own objection), means that each one of these new disasters is an opportunity for change – and, thankfully, the spotlight is growing bigger by the day.

XO,

Susan Carns Curtiss, Founder/CEO Girl Attorney, LLC


From The New York Times authored by Christina Anderson and Richard Perez-Pena:

“The Swedish panel that awards the Nobel Prize in Literature said on Friday that it would take the extraordinary step of not naming a laureate this year — not because of a shortage of deserving writers, but because of the infighting and public outrage that have engulfed the group over a sexual abuse scandal.

The Swedish Academy said it would postpone the 2018 award until next year, when it will name two winners, making this the first year since World War II that the panel has decided not to bestow one of the world’s most revered cultural honors. The academy is involved only in the literature award, so other Nobel Prizes are not affected.

Though the prizes should be awarded annually, they can be postponed or skipped “when a situation in a prize-awarding institution arises that is so serious that a prize decision will not be perceived as credible,” Carl-Henrik Heldin, chairman of the Nobel Foundation, which governs all of the prizes, said in a statement posted online Friday morning. ‘The crisis in the Swedish Academy has adversely affected the Nobel Prize. Their decision underscores the seriousness of the situation and will help safeguard the long-term reputation of the Nobel Prize.’”

 

 

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Four Women Accuse New York’s Attorney General of Physical Abuse

From The New Yorker authored by Jane Mayer and Ronan Farrow :

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I Am the One Woman Who Has It All

OH MY GOSH I love this woman.

I know you will too, since you ARE this woman.

Hey look, we’re all doing our best here (which sometimes IS our best, and sometimes is our I-didn’t-show-up-for-work-in-pajamas…THROW-ME-A-PARADE work). Also, some days, it’s work from home in pajamas day. Not all days are created equal, and no days are perfect. YEP. NO DAYS AT ALL.

So, read on, give yourself a break, take a deep breath, congratulate yourself for putting one foot in front of another – HERO LADY, and do the next thing.

XO,

Susan Carns Curtiss, Founder/CEO Girl Attorney, LLC


From The New Yorker authored by Kimberly Harrington:

“As an inhabitant of planet Earth, I’ve heard a lot of people ask, “Can women really have it all?” and other people respond, “You can have it all, just not all at the same time.” Well, guess what, everyone. You’re wrong! I do have it all. Me! I have all of it.

I have two kids and the unspoken pressure to act like they don’t exist when I’m on a conference call.

I have a professional mandate to know what’s happening in pop culture and an eleven-year-old who tells me to “stop trying to act so cool.”

I have no problem lying about “being in a meeting” when I’m with my kids andno problem lying to my kids about “needing to work” when I’m on Facebook.

I have flexible morality and rigid immaturity.”

 

 

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The new film ‘RBG’ reveals how Ruth Bader Ginsburg became a meme — and why that’s so surprising

My affection for Ms. Ginsburg comes as no surprise to anyone close to me (well, except for those who knew me only when I was young, and/or a young adult – growing up, obediently, in a very “traditional” home). Meaning, in a nutshell/as an example: when I expressed an interest in applying to attend West Point (from where both my father and grandfather graduated and where I had been born), my father’s response was, “That’s no place for a lady.” That settled that, and for at least another decade of my adult life, a personal thought that would place me outside that boundary defined by the authority/male in my life, never occurred to me. I can fairly and accurately say that I was raised in a way that was almost as if I was raised a generation before. Crazy but true.

While such an upbringing certainly slowed the process by which I came to genuinely hero-worship someone like Justice Ginsburg, no matter, it did not prevent it. Fact is, I was also raised with a strong sense of the value of justice – and for the inherent value of truth. The truth is – we were all created equal. Though many of the social structures I had been surrounded with failed to conform to this reality – the TRUTH of it sang through, loud and strong, still (whether the men I was surrounded by liked it or not). lol

I believe if it weren’t for the changes in our society that Ginsburg worked toward, I may never have had the opportunity to SEE the truth that has led to such inspiration in my life, and my passion to see all women fulfill their full potential. It simply cannot be overstated what Justice Ginsburg (starting well before she was even appointed to the Bench) has accomplished for generations of women (and our culture as a whole) to open the doors of opportunity, level the playing field, and provide protection for the vulnerable in systems governed by patriarchial and so-called “complementarian” worldviews. For her work toward accomplishing same, I am thrilled to see this movie and to see what more I will come to learn about the leadership of this powerhouse woman.

Last but not least, is the RBG Movie being shown in your area? Are you going and possibly interested in connecting with other GIRL ATTORNEY Members in your area (maybe grab a bite/drinks before or after – maybe kid-friendly/maybe not)? If so, please FEEL FREE to create an EVENT in your State Group (tell folks which city, which theatre, which time, and any other relevant details). They can buy their own tickets,  and y’all can coordinate a meetup!

XO,

Susan Carns Curtiss, Founder/CEO Girl Attorney, LLC


From The Washington Post authored by Robert Barns:

“At one point in the new documentary “RBG,” Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg and her granddaughter Clara Spera are looking over a scrapbook Ginsburg’s late husband Marty put together for her.

Marty’s idea was to solicit letters from his wife’s admirers on the occasion of her 50th birthday. His own submission said that Ginsburg could take great pride in her accomplishments as a lawyer and judge, but that there is “no way you take greater pride than I do.”

Spera asks her grandmother: “Do you read these often?”

Ginsburg answers nonchalantly, never looking up: “No, I never read them.”

“You should. They’re very nice,” Spera says. “If you ever need a boost of self-confidence.”

Seems unlikely. Self-assurance would be an essential attribute for a woman born in the 1930s, the first in her family to go to college, one of nine women among a Harvard Law School class of more than 500, the second female to sit on the nation’s highest court after about 200 years of only men.”

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